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When a person "makes love", how can that be?
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It's kind of a stupid phrase; you don't "make love"; you share, or give love. Besides, sex isn't always about love.
I love that phraise!!! In my heart, my loverboy and I will always "make love!!!"
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I think possibly it stems from the belief that 2 people in love can strengthen their relationship by having passionate loving sex...they can literally create a new deeper side to their relationship...
you stick your stirrer in, mix up the liquids and call the resulting goo love! thus, making love!
Well, in actuality, you aren't making the "love". In my opinion, you are sharing your love with someone, not making that love with them. Al;so, it's always been a firm belief of mine that sex doesn't always have to be in a relationship. It's only an infinite part of it.
Hi,
"Making love," I think is really only when two people that really love each other have sex.
Some people "Have sex," just for the hell of it; that's just having sex. Love making love is sex, but it has a meaning behind it..
Hope this makes sence,
Ryan/Goldberg
I think there is a distinct difference. If you have sex, you connect physically, for the physical pleasure of it alone. To all intents and purposes, anyone can “have sex” with anyone else. But if you can give yourself to another person, if your desire for that person is bourne out of an emotional attachment as well as a physical one, when you are intimate with that person in ways you have never been with anyone else, and that person also reciprocates and gives him/herself to you in the same way, and if after the sexual encounter you feel complete, as if nothing else in the world matters but you and that other person, you feel emotionally whole, and you can never imagine yourself being with or wanting to be with anyone else, then you have “made love”.
There are a lot of ways to describe having sex. Some of them involve vulgar four-letter words and some of them are very sweet. I think "making love" is just some people's way of describing the sex act. But in truth, sex is not always about love.
Hmm you give yourself over completely you trust that person 100% with your body and emotions..its a time of understanding on a far deeper level..
Again though, how can you make something that is supposed to be there? You can't "make love". The love has to already be there, no?
to a degree yes but the strength of the relationship will crumble if you don't work at it...you can't make someone love you, but you can work to deepen the love that already exists between you.....
Goblin, I couldn't agree more with you. Love is what strengthens the relationship. But, as I said, I don't think one makes that love, they share that love.
ok. Love is a feeling, maybe an emotion. love is made when two people just find to be liking each other, thus making it posible for them to liove, but i think what make love means when two people join each other, two in one and really confirm and are sure that they love each other to the fullest, and well it also sometimes means or has something involving sex. For me the sex part as to be calle dmaking love means when you phicically and emotionally demounstrate the person how much you love her/him and just.... you just completely give yourself to the other person you are loving. i know I am not being clear..... ah well, too bad, lol.
I can dig making love, but sometimes I just wana get laid!
Getting laid, hmm, how so very profound.
deep my brother, deep I'm telling ya! get laid, getten screwed, fuckin, boning. ya get it right?
Aragorn I agree pal...no Dawson we don't get it your remarks have cheapened and degraded a very special and often emotional time in a relationship..have you ever been so deeply in love
try reading between the lines next time! what I am so eloquently trying to convey "that's for you literary types out there" is that not everytime you "make love" have sex etc. is it going to be this deep emotional Alice in wonder land thing. sometimes it's just going to be sex! our animal instincts come out sometimes ya know!
Alice in Wonderland? wrong book there pal try mills and boon...
I agreewith Dawson. Sex can help with sharing and increasing the love and openness between people, but only if the people are willing to do so. Thereare plenty of people who say they make "love", but fantasize about someone completely different than their partners. So they are, in a sense, having physical interaction with their partners and mentally, they are in a different world entirely. Plus, even between lovers, sometimes it's just fucking, all passion and drive.
Yes, it can, but I feel you don't put this in Dawson's vernacular if you will. But, seeing as how we're not being discreet, up for some sex with me, 1800trivia? Seeing that you yourself has put it in that context?
Having sex doesn't take emotion for the other person, but making love is having sex with emotion and it is always more effective to cause an orgasm if you have feelings for the other person, that is why people who a raped it is bery rare to have and orgam.
Very well-put, me lassie. You are absolutely correct, and I must admit, I concur with you all the way.
making love is basically being able to show the person that you care about them
However that maybe, my personal opinion in your case, Doug, is that you can't make love. You can build it; you can share; but you cannot make it.
Okay. "making love" It is an oxymoron indeed. You cannot make what should already be there. I agree with that whole heartedly. Befor the act is performed, the love should be there, thus making the term "making love" invalid. If the love is not there, it's just plain, meaningless, frivilous sex.
Here here. Most definitely!
Making Love is indeed a way of showing feeling if you are having sex or just plain screwing soomeone you are doing it for fun not pleasure not love and that is not a good way too show anything. Except for maybe you find them a bit a peaaling. But it is not very common.
Personally, there are a few friends of mine that I have with some, shall we say, benefits, but that is just for sheer sex and nothing more. However, it doesn't affect our friendship and we don't see each other very often. Once again though, love needs a foundation. Sex is sex, in most cases, but if there is a true heart-felt love during sex, then there has to be some kind of love felt, which is then a foundation. However, you can't make that love happen. It's either there or not. If you and your partner feel some sort of attraction, then there ya go. Having friends with benefits is a form of love, but in a differnet, much different fashion altogether.
Aragorn, I'm merely agreeing with Dawson. As the old saying goes, different strokes for different folks, and, I might add, at diffeerent times. I think people have cheapened the term "making love", and that's also what I was trying to indicate. Also, I think people are hesitant to say "I had sex last night or yesterday or today or whatever" and would rather say "I made love" or "I slept with him/her" thinking it sounds nicer. Whenever I hear those phrases, I think of the couples who haven't had sex in months but sleep together every night, or those who fantasize outside their relationship behind the other person's back, but still say they are "making love".
Yes, people have truly made that particular statement cheap, and I couldn't agree more with that.